Success Mindset

Well it's been a while..

Well it’s been a while..

_AMC8836Well it’s been a while since I’ve been doing much writing, but it’s time, and what better time but Thanksgiving weekend.


A lot has transpired these last few month, new opportunities seen me take on the COO role of the Fit Body Franchise, a new home purchase in sunny Southern California, a lot of flying, and all kinds of new challenges and responsibilities.


It’s like over night I went from owning my two locations and coaching a few dozen other fitness pros to acquiring a few hundred new clients overnight.


It really puts in perspective the idea of “systems” and “working on the business.”


Fast forward I’ve now been away from my Red Deer location for nearly four months, and to this day I’ve still only been to my Edmonton location physically six times since we opened last March (and only twice while we were actually open for business.)


What many of you don’t know is in the last month and a half I’ve had a wholesale staff change at that location…while I was in a different country.


My Red Deer location has continued to perform on par without me, what an amazing feeling that is. My Edmonton location, well massive momentum is stalled for a moment as the team is rebuilt and stabilized but it wouldn’t have been that long ago that I think this recent experience (like it would for many young entrepreneurs) have caused me a nervous breakdown.


There’s two things that have really seen me through this transition, they’ve each provided valuable lessons and I’m convinced they will both be the top elements of future and yet to come much greater success.


Read on; give it some thought I wonder will you agree when you consider each in relation to your own business.


Did I mention that Thanksgiving is my favourite holiday? One that’s not fully consumerized, but about family and reflection of thanks.


It’s this first one that I am truly so thankful for.




I now find myself part of 3 very dynamic teams. Two of the three communicate regularly and assist one another, the third is charged with the mission to shape this whole industry under the brand of Fit Body.


Being part of a team, and not being able to be in the trenches with them every day changes things. Further trying to develop a team that you haven’t spent any face-to-face time with is a really big challenge.


But how do you build an effective team? I’ve certainly learned a few do’s and don’ts.


Team Don’ts


Steer performance by making hard demands.


Don’t mistake as a leader who your first responsibility is to, your employees.


Make assumptions without hearing both sides first.


Let emotion lead to rash decisions that cause more harm than good.


Assume that everyone has the same vision or views your vision the same as you do.


Team Do’s


Have multiple lines of communication, the closer to how we communicate commonly the better.


Team Facebook groups can be highly productive, I suspect mass texts will work very well as well.


Ensure there are measureable means of performance and review and discuss them at regular intervals. (ex. Testimonials and completed assessments.)


Be sure to find ways to try spend time together on a non-work activities.


Foster growth by facilitating and encouraging opportunity to professional development (ie. Send them to learning opportunities and regularly set action plans.) This is a much for skills development as it is to reignite the inspiration of loving what you do.


Create as much flexibility and autonomy as possible.


Consider your team to be a family and treat them the same.


Be willing to give selflessly, but demand loyalty to one another at all costs.


Make time to spend with your team even if it requires travel, see them face-to-face and be present as often as you can. (Ideally at least once per week.)


And finally (which is the second thing) repeatedly ask “why?”




“It Begins with Why”


I was recently selected for something I consider an honour, to give an 18 minute speech to a small audience of a few hundred people at a locally organized TED event.


In my research and review of a few TED Talks considering just how my presentation might go I cam across a TEDx talk by Simon Sinek.


Here’s the link and I highly recommend you watch it.


This has become one of the most profound career points in every aspect of my business. I can look back and reflect that every single success I’ve had has always been when I pursued opportunity for no other reason than why it was important to me.


For example my personal training career actual began a few years before I ever made my first dollar personal training; truly it began when I began helping people at the local gym and I didn’t take their money because “It was stuff that I just thought everyone should know.”


When offered my latest position the negotiation didn’t start with discussion of compensation, it began with discussing the role and it’s responsibilities because I wanted to know if it matched up to my why. I wanted to know that if I took the role could I steer the business in the way I wished for what I believe will best help more people than I could have ever helped before, not much else really mattered to be honest.


We now make a point to begin our team meetings with questions surrounding “why.”


Why do we exist?

Why are we doing what we are doing?

Why do “you” want to be a part of this?

Why is it important we succeed?

Why is it important that we grow?


There’s no sense talking about anything else until this is understood by all, as how and what to do come pretty naturally after (you’ll see that I mean if you watch Simon’s video.)


Hopefully you’ve found this helpful, I leave you with this final question, what’s your why?



3 Simple Techniques To Help Your Clients Get Better Results

Lori Kennedy RHN HeadshotWant to make your competition irrelevant?

Want to build your business quickly for free?

Want to become the go-to expert in your community and online?

Start helping your clients get better results! It’s really that simple.

So how do you help your clients get better results when most clients continuously throw excuse after excuse at you as to why they just can’t fit in one more workout each week? When they try and justify why they just had to have that extra serving of mashed potatoes, the cupcake, the third glass of wine or whatever else they felt they had to consume.

Believe me, I know how frustrating it is when you so badly want to help your clients, sometimes more than they want to help themselves. How do you help them to stay on track?

After all, your clients’ results dramatically affect your reputation.

WARNING: You might find these 3 techniques obvious and too simple.

It doesn’t really matter what YOU think, it’s what your clients comply with and follow through with consistently. If they aren’t following your program now it’s time to modify how you do things.

We all only have so much energy in the day to make decisions, plan, prepare and give to others and ourselves. When too much energy is dedicated to having to follow too many rules and routines our clients become exhausted and they give up.

These techniques, however simple, will help your clients to stay on track and get better results over time.

Technique # 1: Identify the challenges and obstacles & then script the outcome

Ask the client where they believe they will fail. Ask what they believe their major roadblocks and challenges are. Work through each one, one by one, to learn the mindset behind each block.

Then create a step-by-step script that will combat each roadblock or challenge.

The script could be a verbal or written script or a detailed outline of the exact steps they are going to take the next time that roadblock is put in front of them. This goes beyond the simple recommendation of “have a small snack before you go to the restaurant.”

If you aren’t specific questions arise… what snack, how much, when should I eat it, is this okay to eat?

A specific script looks more like…

30 minutes before you leave for the restaurant have 1 hard-boiled egg and 10 grapes. Drink 1 cup of water. Bring a sugar free candy with you to suck on while you order your dinner and wait for your salad appetizer.

Identify each roadblock so scripting the desired outcome doesn’t leave anything up to chance and removes the idea that willpower is involved. Little energy is expended on the client’s behalf as they try to navigate the roadblock on their own.

They have a plan and are prepared.

Technique # 2: Stick to two choices

In the book Switch by Chip and Dan Heath they discuss the topic of decision paralysis. The idea is that when too many choices are provided we are likely to become overwhelmed and do nothing.

When you give your clients too many exercise options or too many meal options they feel overwhelmed and usually do nothing.

Only give your clients two options – A or B.

For example, when you give them their meal plan, provide one alternative choice for them in case they don’t like the meal you’ve provided. This way they can choose between A or B protein for their dinner.

Keeping the options targeted and narrow removes the necessity for the client to make any decisions or spend time thinking about what they want. They chose one or the other.

Technique # 3: Measure confidence

Each week I co-create one goal with my clients that they will commit to achieving and believe they can accomplish.

After many client failures I learned to keep the weekly focus to one goal and to measure their confidence level and belief around whether or not they could actually achieve that goal.

After we decide on the goal I ask the client a simple question…

“On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the most confident), how confident are you that you can achieve this goal?”

If I get anything less than a 9, I chunk the goal down into a smaller, more manageable, believable goal. Then I ask the question again.

For example, the client currently doesn’t drink any water and I set the goal to drink 8 cups of water per day. It’s unlikely that the client will truly believe they can adhere to that goal daily.

It doesn’t matter what you think of the goal or believe the client can handle. Results only come when the client commits and follows through. They will only do that when they believe they can be successful.

So if the client gives me a 7 out of 10 on the goal, then I reduce the goal to drinking 4 cups of water per day for 7 days.

Measuring confidence has been one of the most effective techniques I’ve used in my nutrition business. We live and breathe health daily, so our level of confidence is higher and our beliefs around what we can achieve are different from our clients.

When you create a specific and detailed plan to overcome roadblocks, narrow the available choices and then check in to see how confident the client is about their ability to achieve their goals you will see commitment and compliance dramatically increase.


Lori Kennedy

Procrastinating was the biggest bottleneck!

Procrastinating was the biggest bottleneck!

image“I want my business to grow, but I feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day…”


Man! That statement strikes a nerve in me (and perhaps you too). I spent years gripping the reins so fiercely that I found the business I’d been working so hard to build was just stagnating – I’d have 30 clients one month, then 34 the next… then I’d have a few cancel and I’d be down to 27. Not what you’d call steady growth.


I genuinely love helping people. But by the end of the day, I barely had time to finish all of my client follow up. Then I still had to clean my equipment, review food journals, respond to all of my emails, Facebook messages and voicemails, write the program for the following days’ workout and… You know the drill. I barely had enough time to accomplish anything else – which left out the important stuff like fitness assessment days, putting together fitness challenges with points for prizes and calculation formulas + systems to keep track of those points. And then there’s the really important stuff like, um… Marketing… Sales… Sheesh. I really felt like I was in over my head.


Procrastinating on marketing and not thinking I had enough time for sales was the biggest bottleneck. Not to say it can’t be done, but it’s tough to grow a fitness business quickly with just referrals. My clients made the effort to bring in their friends and many of them would stick with it, but it just wasn’t enough for the business to really gain momentum.


Eventually I got fed up with the constant struggle and I decided to apply myself toward a new path of action to improve that mess. That’s when I went to my first fitness “mastermind” meeting down in Southern California. I met people who had businesses similar to mine. Everyone had different ideas and ways of doing things. I got feedback and I created a to-do list to make the changes that I needed to make to grow my business. It was such a relief to be in a group where everyone was focused on finding solutions to problems like the ones we were experiencing. I gained a whole lot of perspective at that meeting and I decided to join as a member.


I got home and I took massive action. I started on my list and transformed my business. I trained a replacement trainer so I no longer had to be there for every session. I hired an assistant to answer phones, book my appointments and follow up with my clients. I dialed in my sales skills and I developed a marketing plan. I delegated my daily to-do’s and handled the big-picture items myself.


I had the support of other business owners to share their experiences with me. I heard what worked for them and what didn’t and learned how they were growing and advancing their businesses.


Surrounding yourself with the right crowd is necessary to keep momentum and initiate big progress. If I could pass along one piece of advice, it would be to make friends with fitness pros who have excelled past the point you are in your business and pay attention to the way they do business. In other words, emulate the type of success you want for yourself and your business. Continue on your mission to make your business better and better. And never stop learning.


Cheers – Dallas

Why Being the Best Matters

Why Being the Best Matters

unnamedBeing an MMA fan, I get caught up in the hype of fights all the time.


Every time there is a championship fight, they create promo for both fighters and how hard each camp has trained.


You get to see the inside life of each fighter and why this fight will be the best fight ever because the champion has never fought a challenger so strong, so experienced, so fast, so (insert athletic adjective).


Take for instance Georges St. Pierre who has one of the most dominant careers in mixed martial arts.


He retired with the belt because no one could beat him decidedly making him perhaps the best fighter ever.


And that’s why he still gets paid the big bucks! We buy his stuff, we listen to what he says and read books on his life to be more like him.


That’s what authority is.


Want to know the opposite of authority?


It’s actually, “uncertainty.”


That’s why championship fights sell out, because there is that feeling of uncertainty that the best might just lose. When the champ wins, it re-affirms why we buy the stuff he represents, because he is the best!


Think about your fitness business or any business for a second.


If you’re not the best who would want to visit you and pay the big bucks?


If suddenly a new competitor comes to town what are you doing to prove you are still number one?


Are you creating uncertainty about your business in any way?


Remember, most people don’t remember second place, so strive to be number one in every facet of your business and you’ll be the champion of your industry.

Joe Fight

Joe “Fight” is a fitness business owner from Toronto that runs Fight Fit Bootcamps, a fitness and fat loss bootcamp that helps his clients burn fat, tone up and learn to kick butt at the same time. Having expanded to 3 locations in under 2 years, his business has proven to be a game changer for the fitness and martial arts market. For more information about his program check out:

How to Beat Your Competition And Live A Life of Abundance

How to Beat Your Competition And Live A Life of Abundance

unnamedGrowing up I had it in my head, that being a cage fighter would be the coolest thing ever.


I found the closest kickboxing/MMA gym I could find. This was just before MMA was really mainstream so these gyms where dimly lit, lined with carpet covered with blood and sweat.


It was intimidating, and I was scared, especially when the first time I sparred I got the snot kicked out of me by someone that was 10 years my senior.


But even with the bruises and blood I was dumb enough to continue.


Eventually I got good, good enough that when a newbie came in, I could beat the snot out of them too.


If they didn’t put there hands up, I would keep punching them in the face until they did. If they didn’t learn to check kicks, I would turn their leg into hamburger meat until they did.


Hey, this is how I learned you should too!


Looking back, this has everything to do with a scarcity mindset.


See, when we think in scarcity, we’re afraid to show our stuff to the competition because they will eventually take it and use it against you.


If you teach someone exactly how to block your punches then you won’t be able to hit them anymore. And they might actually be able to hit you back.


That’s why Chinese Martial Arts was so secretive, they were afraid that it would be used against them. Until someone by the name of Bruce Lee came along and started teaching it to the world. He started blending the styles, and may arguably be the first MMA fighter.


And look at how far the sport has come now.


That is what abundance mindset is.


If I had the abundance mindset earlier, I would teach and nurture a new fighter so they could block punches and kicks early on and maybe even hit me. This in turn forces me to “UP” my game to prevent it from happening.


Think about your competition in business now. Imagine if you were to share your best stuff, training methodology, and business practices. So what if they got a hold of it, that would just mean you would have to deliver more in value to compete.


Your clients would love you even more and you would really be world class.


That is what having the abundance mindset is about, knowing that there is plenty to go around and because you were the first to share, you’ll be seen as an authority.


So 3 things to help develop an abundance mindset:


1. Treat everything you do as an investment.


2. Contribute to other peoples growth.


3. Be a leader and authority to help others see bigger futures.

And being the authority is a whole other post.

Fighting to keep you fit,
Joe Fight

How-to: Real Time Management for Entrepreneurs.

You might believe you are already effective at managing your time. If there’s anything I’ve learned it’s that when it comes to time management it’s a continual work of improvement.

There are 3 keys to time management.

Most important, always make sure you decide what you need to do tomorrow at the end of today.

This may seem like a small thing, and it’s really easy to say, “I’ll make a list first thing in the morning,” but don’t do it. If you make your list in the morning it’s like skipping breakfast, you’ve conditioned your mind to start the day unfocused. It’s like going for a hard workout with low blood sugar because not only are you unfocused you’re forced to complete a very difficult series of tasks in rapid succession. You’ll be accessing creative centers, problem solving, and organization just to get your list for the day. It may not seem like a lot but the resources required to complete this (just to decide what to do first) will seriously limit your ability to complete the list you’ve just worked so hard to make.

Maxwell Maltz, author of a must read book called Psycho Cybernetics talks about what he calls “rehearsal within the theatre of the mind.” By outlining your tasks the night before your subconscious mind goes immediately to work preparing for the first task you will complete the next morning. This sets the stage for immediate productivity and easier completion of pre-arranged tasks because your subconscious mind has already been planning solutions.

Second, make sure that you begin with the most difficult thing first.

It’s been proven in my own action, and I’ve seen it in countless others, avoiding hard tasks leads to procrastination or continual distraction. As the days wear on we’re undoubtedly met with resistance, adversity or unexpected events (maybe all of the above.) Each requires a great deal of emotional energy to conquer and as a result it means less emotional energy to tackle daily tasks. If you avoid completing the most difficult thing first you will avoid it all day, every day an onward forever. Difficult tasks build up; these lead to major roadblocks and crush the momentum of any business.

The third and final critical component of time management is chunking.

Chunking is simply the act of grouping like tasks together. The time it takes to become creative, to think of an idea and write this column is lost if I immediately move on to something else. So rather than moving on to a different task I group writing tasks together. Prior to writing this article I wrote a blog post, which lead to this column idea and in the last few paragraphs has manifested into other ideas. I’ll chunk a couple hours together and write three to five pieces of content, this satisfies one of my tasks for the next ten days. Now I can move on to the next chunk which could be sixty minutes of responding to emails, a list of follow up calls, or if it’s on my list ideally more creative work like promotional copy, etc.

It’s not surprising that employees congregate around the water cooler in late morning or mid afternoon. I believe even committed people have a hard time maintaining razor focus and productivity for long periods. And as events occur and the day wears on our reserve of emotional energy is quickly drained. Working longer is not realistic, working smarter and more efficiently is; and it leaves a lot more time for fun.

I'm Ready to Talk About It...

I’m Ready to Talk About It…

headshotI’m Ready To Talk About It…

It’s been 6 months since I left my husband.
There, it’s out there. Now the world knows 🙂
I am now a fully fledged single mom, single earner, single woman. I own a massively successful boot camp business, I am closing a personal training studio in an effort to streamline and increase profitability and I am stretching my mentoring and mindset wings in my community. Thats me….thats my life. Thats where I am at.
Good job I don’t like things such as job security, stable pay checks or “working for the man”.
Good job I flourish when I am faced with uncertainly, decision making and a requirement for creating impeccable marketing projects.
Good job I am a woman.
But honestly, I think any reader out there is in the same boat. Maybe not the whole divorce thing, but I know you read this blog because you love the feeling of determining your own destiny. You wake up with a passion to create, to lead and to be a person who is bringing their dreams into reality.
Feeling like you are at Ground Zero can be daunting. And believe me, after 12 years of marriage, being divorced kinda feels like that, but on the other side of the coin, its a brand new start. It is not really an ending, it is actually a beginning.
Luckily for me my brand new start comes standard with a 7 Figure Master Mind team, a booming boot camp business, a fantastic 8 year old son who makes me proud, a staff of 9 amazing women and a world of possibility. I pulled myself up when I was down, I relied upon my amazing support system and turned my fear over to faith.
But guess what, it doesn’t take a massive life change to create your Ground Zero. It just takes a brand new day.
You are the greatest entrepreneur that ever lived and today is your day.
This blog is NOT a vent, a pity party or even a “woe is me” tale. No. I wrote this blog to remind everyone that starting over is never as hard the second (or 10th!) time around. You may feel like you are constantly recreating and reinventing, but thats a good thing!
Sometimes, we are offered a fresh start. We get to write a new chapter. We are gifted the opportunity to make our business count. As an entrepreneur, you are given this gift every single day. Don’t let the stress of money, employees, family or marriage take that away from you.
I am always here for support, questions and feedback so feel free to inbox me:
I know many of you have been through massive life shifts while still managing to be a successful business entrepreneur. You should know that you are MY inspiration 🙂


Are you an action taker? Are you sure?

As I write this I’m 41,000 feet in the air en-route to Chino Hills by way of Phoenix. I had to write this now as I was just reviewing submissions for a 90-day business transformation challenge and needed a break. I run this challenge every three months within the elite coaching program I run with Bedros Keuilian. I have to pick finalists today so they can get prepared to campaign for the votes of their peers at this coming weekend mastermind. Let me explain why all of this is important to you.

People, but entrepreneurs especially, like to win and compete I’m sure you agree. As entrpreneurs we’re generally Type-A analytical types, detail oriented and continually pushing forward, this is mostly true.

The prize for our business transformation contest is travel and hotel to our next meeting, always in a fun locations like beautiful Las Vegas. All you have to do is commit to paper how your business has changed in the last 90-days to be considered. Interestingly in this elite group still only an average of 1 in 5 submit their 90-day summaries. Would you have been the 1?

Every day I hear from people how busy they are, heck even I say how busy I am, when you review the last 7-days or even the last 30 can you say with confidence that have you been effective? By effective I mean have you implemented something or improved something directly related to the profitability or longevity of your business and can you measure it? Or have you been working on your technician skills of becoming a better trainer?

It’s easy to be busy, but it’s surprising how easily it is to be distracted by the wrong things. A trainer calls in sick so you jump in, a client isn’t happy with their other trainer so you jump in, the toilet breaks, you jump in.

There’s a time, no matter how big or small your business is, that you’ve likely done all these things or you soon will.

The effective entrepreneur will succeed in doing these things less until one day you can’t believe you ever did them at all.

Here’s the big secret if you want to be really successful in the shortest time possible, you have to avoid being the technician. Declare your line in the sand, the line that says you will never cross.

You have a responsibility to your customers and to your employees to stay focused on a very narrow set of tasks (simply because few people juggle a lot of tasks well) and these tasks should be the things that will have big impact on your business.

  • Marketing campaigns, write the copy, prepare the flow, create the instruction set for people to run the promotion over and over and then pass it off to a teammate to execute.
  • Reviewing sales performance and even client performance, then coaching or creating any systems you can to improve these performances.
  • Review the business finances. What are the key areas your business is spending money in the last 90 days? Can any of these be improved or reduced?

You notice in there I didn’t mention training people or anything like that, no paying bills, no buying supplies, etc. If you’re juggling all of these things on a regular basis you will never be able to gain the momentum to take huge leaps forward. That doesn’t mean you’ll never do them again, there’s still days in my businesses where everything collapses and I could be doing any task you can imagine but the point is that’s not the rule, the more you work to delegate the more ways you’ll find to delegate and when crap happens you’ll have a greater tolerance and less of a desire to jump in.


Stay focused on the prize!

The Art of Compulsion

The Art of Compulsion

headshotThe Art of Compulsion.


Compulsion, my dear friend and cohort Merriam Webster tells me, is:


: a very strong desire to do something


Women, in my opinion, often feel compelled to help other people. It is part of our genetic make up. Now men, don’t get huffy – you also have these same compulsions. In fact, some of the greatest men I know in this industry are simply on a mission to help as many people as possible.


But, for the sake of a good ole’ argument, lets run with my theory for a while.


It is my stance, that as women, we are genetically wired, genetically compelled if you will,  to put others before ourselves. This is why we are so successful in the fitness industry, an industry built on the foundation of making sure our clients always come first.


Merriam Webster (not a woman by the way, 2 men who were bound and determined to stabilize the American Language) tells us that compulsion is a strong desire to do something and when I think about my role in this industry, I 100% agree. I really do have a strong desire to help other people. I have the need to help my boot camp members, the desire to help my peers and as I develop into a female fitness entrepreneur I am 100% compelled to serve other female fitness business owners.


I also know that as company owners, CEO’s, coaches and creators, we are all in the same boat;  we will trip over our own feet in an effort to help those around us.


–  We get up early and go to bed late to make sure that we have reached all the people on our list.

–  We sacrifice time with friends and family so we can ensure our clients needs are met.

–  We work on weekends, even when we said we wouldn’t, because it bugs us to know that someone in our inbox needs our help.


Call this horrific time management. Call us “gluttons for punishment” if you want but I have a feeling that because of our compulsions, this is just the way it will always be. I don’t feel bad about this, I feel proud. I am happy that I have the ability to help 1000’s of people feel better about their bodies and business. It’s not an easy road, but it’s my road and I am going to embrace every email, text, Facebook message and phone call. I feel blessed that I can help these people and honored they would seek out my help.


Now, this blog is called the Art Of Compulsion, because I do believe, at some point, our buckets will run empty. (

If we constantly give and never receive, then we can never refill our buckets of energy and love.  It is important then, that we surround ourselves with people that not only need us, but by the people that support us. These people will keep on filling your bucket so you can get out there and continue being the awesome, amazing, inspirational problem solver that I know you are.


If you want to talk more, or simply have questions, please email me at: Put “Misty – you gotta help me NOW” in the email subject and i’ll probably get back to you in less than 30 seconds flat….what can I say – I am compelled.






The Mistake Cycle

The Mistake Cycle


By now you may have heard of Misty she’s written a couple guest blog posts for me. Her journey has been an amazing one in less than two years going from small home studio to thriving home studio and a separate standalone boot camp location with some really cool things on the horizon (watch for her transformation profile coming up soon I don’t want to give it all away.)

Here’s another great post from her that will really hit home for many. If you’re at Fitness Business Summit in California next week I’m sure you’ll see Misty, and even get a chance to learn from her as she’ll be doing some teaching at the private Fitness Business Accelerator mastermind.

Take it aways Misty…

“I was born to make mistakes, not fake perfection”: Drake.

This statement kinda hit home today. It is a quiet afternoon and I am just catching up on some Facebooking (read: wasting time). Anyway, turns out it wasn’t all just a waste of time as I came across the above quote by Drake.
It’s a really good quote…..a really, really good quote.
Mistakes are often viewed as failures. In business we make mistakes all the time, and in business we are told to learn from them. Mentors, coaches, wise prophets have all told us to “learn from our mistakes, it is what makes us stronger”.
But in the moment, how do we remember to learn from this mistake instead of letting it take us down a path of negativity and despair?
How on earth do we learn from something we view as a failure? When this mistake happened you may have lost money, made a fool of yourself or bruised your ego.  All these emotional reactions to your business mistake make it very hard to view it as a lesson to be learned.
I used to want to stick a hot needle in my eye when people told me that “I need to learn from my mistakes”….My reaction would be to yell: “Go away and let me wallow in my misery.”
And see, herein lies the problem. The wallowing.
Wallowing makes us attract negative outcomes. Re-read that statement until it sinks in.
Wallowing is an act of self pity. We feel sorry for ourselves, we may even feel angry that we screwed up so badly. When we ruminate on negative issues, we simply attract to ourselves more negative issues.
Case in point: Money.
As business owners, we worry about money. We worry about how much we make, how much we spend, what we gross and what we net. We worry constantly about the state of our bank account.
We seem to always worry about not having enough.
Well guess what, if you always worry about not having enough money, you are NEVER going to have enough money. Why? Because we only attract to ourselves what we focus on the most.
With that being said, lets now go back to the “Mistake Cycle”….
See, if you focus on your mistakes, and wallow, then what do YOU think you are going to attract to yourself again and again in the very near future????
mistakeThat’s right: MORE mistakes.
Maybe you messed up a promo, clashed with a client or invested in a crappy product. Oh well. Start thinking about how to resolve the issue, find the silver lining and move on. Remember to tell yourself that we are here to make mistakes and not fake perfection as Drake so eloquently wrote. Don’t stop to waste time on how it has negatively impacted you. If you let yourself do this, you will ultimately attract another problem.


Go ahead and make mistakes – we are not perfect. Mistakes make us human and they give us an amazing learning arena to practice positive self talk and inspired action. Mistakes are just part of the big picture, let them happen as ultimately they just get you one step closer to massive success.
A wise mentor said to me once: “let it be beautiful”. I use this phrase often when things don’t go how I expected. Take things at face value and don’t ever let that mistake dictate how you *think* the future will play out.